Archive for March, 2010

A reader has send me a message wherein I found this fascinating sentence.

I quote: Now my husband and I let Bonnie sleep between us, and I know it is not good, but I cannot bear her to be sad.

Looking at a former message from the same reader I know Bonnie is now 7 months old.

If it is not good, the reader might mean that according to her what se is doing is bad.
It also means that she is consciously doing something is bad for her dog.
Strange not?
She is doing something bad because she cannot bear her dog to be sad.
This sounds even more strange to me.
By the way: a dog that sleeps in its own bed is not sad.
The sadness exists in the mind of the human being.
It is an assumption.
A dog owned by stable human beings is not sad.
Many human beings are spoiling dogs. That may be considered to be some sort of therapy for the human being but it is unfair to the dog.

The reality is different.
The reality for animals is not something that takes place in our imagination, in our assumptions and projections.
The reality is what the reality is in nature.
In the Western World we have lost touch with nature. For that reason we are destroying Mother Earth.
For that reason we develop a lot of misunderstandings between dogs and human beings.
Dogs are dogs.
Human beings are human beings.
Human beings are not dogs.
Dogs are not human beings.

What is the reality for a pup?

In the canine family a pup is never alone. It spends 24 hrs per day with the adult members of the family and with brothers and sisters.
This enables the pup to LEARN EVERYTHING it will need in life in order to survive.
As soon as the pup is 6 to 7 months old she will accompany the adult pack members during the hunt, because she has to learn everything about team work during the hunting and killing of the prey.
No canine parents will ever spoil a pup.
In my own pack I have witnessed how the canine pack leader only allows other members of the pack to come close to his bed when he gives permission.
By the way: there are no traumatized animals in nature.
Animals can only develop traumas when they are living with human beings. Look at the behaviour of animals in a zoo and look at the behaviour of most dogs that are being spoiled by their owners.

What do I do with a newly acquired pup, a newly adopted dog, or a dog that is ill?
I will keep the animal close to me for a short time. Close to me can also mean that I take it in my bedroom for a short time.
A short period is one or two weeks.

After that short period I will teach the animal to sleep in its bed what will be placed outside my bedroom.

Having a dog that is 7 months old sleep between the reader and her partner is herr decision but in my experience it leads inevitably to problems.
I do not only refer to problems between man and wife but problems between dog and human beings.
In most similar cases that I have been called to deal with, it is the wife who decides to have the dog in the bed and in most cases it is the man who grudgingly complies.
Think also about hygiene issues because a dog will bring fleas and ticks to your bed.

What does it mean for a dog to be able to sleep in the bed of its owners?
The human bed is not a bed anymore but becomes a nest for the dog.
The dog is allowed to sleep in the nest of the humans who are supposed to be the pack leaders.
The humans are even obliged by the law to have control over the dog.
But a dog that is allowed in the human bed will almost always refuse to respect the human beings as the leading members of the pack. The dog will then ignore the owners and in the end many owners will start complaining about their dog. They will start calling their dog a bad dog or a stupid dog. Millions of dogs are being put to sleep every year not because they are bad dogs – bad dogs do not exist – but because they are being called BAD by their ignorant, inexperienced and/or unstable owners.
I am not saying that my reader is ignorant, inexperienced and unstable.
I am referring to my many years of dealing with people who have created problems for their dogs because they have never learned or discovered how to behave correctly with their pets.

The dog in question is a terrier mix.
Terriers have been bred by human beings in order to be working dogs. They have to be fast and fearless killers with a lot of stamina. They are not toys or dolls.  Spoiling a terrier will almost certainly lead to behavioural problems.

In a former message my reader wrote she wanted to teach her dog to heel, to retrieve and poo and wee off pavements.
It will be interesting for me to read about how she has progressed with her teaching.

Does your dog sleep in your bed?

Kindest regards from Brunothedoglistener.
Well-educated dogs are obedient dogs.
Obedient dogs are happy dogs.
Happy dogs have happy owners.

Happy dogs sleep in their own beds.

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Hi there

Today I want to talk to you about Worrying.

While reading you might ask yourself: What has this got to do with the education of dogs?

Well, it has a lot to do with dogs.

I will explain why I think it does.

Having received an anonymous letter wherein it was said that her barking dogs would be poisoned, Shirley went to see a lawyer who referred her to me. She became my client and over the following months we developed what is for me a very rewarding relationship. I am teaching her but I am also learning from her.

This 74 year old widow learned not only how to behave correctly with her two big dogs, but  also how to become more assertive and develop more confidence. During the process I was able to heal her very ill dog with natural food, natural tissue salts after dr Schuessler and barleylife food supplements.

Last week she told me the following story.

Sunday morning her neighbour came along to take one of her dogs for a walk. It would not take much longer than an hour, the neighbour said.

When the hour was gone and the neighbour had not returned with her dog, Shirley started worrying. In her mind she imagined all sorts of catastrophes like the neighbour falling into a ravine, her dog running off and not coming back, her dog being attacked, her neighbour being attacked, and other terrible things.

Her worrying became so intense she started to feel pain in her chest. But in the end the neighbour came back with the dog. She simply had walked a bit longer because the weather was fine and the dog behaved perfectly.

When she told me her story the following Wednesday, Shirley was still feeling the pain her worrying had caused in her chest.

Do you realize how great the power of your mind is? I asked. Filling yourself with negative thoughts made you literally ill.

Now imagine the following, I told her: Would it be possible, instead of making yourself ill, to heal yourself by using that same power in a positive way?

She had never thought about that possibility.

When we met the week after, Shirley was eager to tell me another story.

An acquaintance had created a misunderstanding between herself and a good friend. Although she was not responsible for the misunderstanding Shirley started worrying and feeling guilty. But then she remembered what we had been talking about and she pushed the negative thoughts out of her mind. After a while she felt relieved and at peace. She even found the courage to talk to the persons who were involved in the misunderstanding and put things right in her relationship with them.

Now what has this got to do with the education of dogs?

If we are full of fear and worry a lot, our dog feels this and (s)he will behave accordingly. If you cannot offer leadership the dog will have only one solution: (s)he will take charge, not listen to a fearful and worrying owner and run off while you are calling.

If you are this kind of owner you might then call your dog A BAD DOG.

But if you stop worrying, puts yourself in a calm assertive mood and offer leadership, your dog will also feel this and accept the leadership that is being offered.

By the way, I think that worrying is a denial of god. You can change the word god by universe, energy, the one, the spirit or whatever you want to call it but the meaning of the saying will stay clear.

Have you gone through experiences similar to what Shirley told me?

Are you willing to share that experience?

Kindest regards from Brunothedoglistener

Worrying people have disobedient dogs.

Calm assertive people have happy dogs.

www.brunodogs.com

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Today I want to talk to you about Worrying.

While reading you might ask yourself: Is he again talking about the education of dogs?

Well, it has a lot to do with dogs. Because dogs reflect our behaviour. This is why I call them my teachers.

Having received an anonymous letter wherein it was said that her barking dogs would be poisoned, Shirley went to see a lawyer who referred her to me. She became my client and over the following months we developed what is for me a very rewarding relationship. I am teaching her but I am also learning from her.

This 74 year old widow learned not only how to behave correctly with her two big dogs, but  also how to become more assertive and develop more confidence. During the process I was able to heal her very ill dog with natural food, natural tissue salts after dr Schuessler and barleylife food supplements.

Last week she told me the following story.

Sunday morning her neighbour came along to take one of her dogs for a walk. It would not take much longer than an hour, the neighbour said.

When the hour was gone and the neighbour had not returned with her dog, Shirley started worrying. In her mind she imagined all sorts of catastrophes like the neighbour falling into a ravine, her dog running off and not coming back, her dog being attacked, her neighbour being attacked, and other terrible things.

Her worrying became so intense she started to feel pain in her chest. But in the end the neighbour came back with the dog. She simply had walked a bit longer because the weather was fine and the dog behaved perfectly.

When she told me her story the following Wednesday, Shirley was still feeling the pain her worrying mind had caused in her chest.

Do you realize how great the power of your mind is? I asked. Filling yourself with negative thoughts made you literally ill.

Now imagine the following, I told her: Would it be possible, instead of making yourself ill, to heal yourself by using that same power in a positive way?

She had never thought about that possibility.

When we met the week after, Shirley was eager to tell me another story.

An acquaintance had created a misunderstanding between herself and a good friend. Although she was not responsible for the misunderstanding Shirley started worrying and feeling guilty. But then she remembered what we had been talking about and she pushed the negative thoughts out of her mind. After a while she felt relieved and at peace. She even found the courage to talk to the persons who were involved in the misunderstanding and put things right in her relationship with them.

Now what has this got to do with the education of dogs?

If we are full of fear and worry a lot, our dog feels this and (s)he will behave accordingly. If you cannot offer leadership the dog will have only one solution: (s)he will take charge, not listen to a fearful and worrying owner and run off while you are calling.

If you are this kind of owner you might then call your dog A BAD DOG.

But if you stop worrying, puts yourself in a calm assertive mood and offer leadership, your dog will also feel this and accept the leadership that is being offered.

By the way, I think that worrying is a denial of god. You can change the word god by universe, energy, the one, the spirit or whatever you want to call it but the meaning of the saying will stay clear.

Have you gone through experiences similar to what Shirley told me? Even  if you have no dog?

Are you willing to share that experience?

Kindest regards from Brunothedoglistener

Worrying people have disobedient dogs.

Calm assertive people have happy dogs.

www.brunodogs.com

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Many times I listen to what clients have to say about the problems they have with their dogs. It is true that as human beings we do like to talk about our problems. But compare these so called problems with the story of Hettie Woehler.

She is an amazing guest writer in the Majestic program owned by Scott in South Africa.

This very special lady is blind, yet she knows computers (and has even learned the basics of Majestic) with impressive proficiency. She loves to teach and she loves to write!

I have no further comments.

Just read.

I don’t have a disability, I have a competitive advantage!
By Hettie Woehler

I needed a pair of shoes. I walked into the shoe shop and started talking to the friendly assistant who stood waiting for me.

“I need a pair of black shoes, I think a number six, and can you help me?”

She didn’t even answer me, just stood there like a statue!

I went to another shop to find a dress for a special occasion. Again I talked to the lady in front of me

“I need a nice dress for a friend’s wedding, can you help me please?”

No reaction.

No, the world’s not full of unwilling shop assistants. I suppose I cannot expect a mirror in front of me or a shop doll dressed to advertise the shop’s clothes to talk to me. What happened then?

I was talking to a mirror reflecting my own reflection back to me or that the “lady” beautifully dressed was nothing but a shop doll! And they say talking to yourself is a sign of madness? Actually, I’m not mad at all, I’m blind. There is a difference, I promise!

Even worse are those shop assistants who stand at the other side of the counter expecting me to tell them what I want to buy. They become uneasy; I become irritated because nobody is attending to me. If she would only ask me what I need, I then know that there is someone at the other side of the counter.

Another helpful assistant told me to “just follow me” and started to walk off. No footsteps to follow, and if there were footsteps were they the assistant’s or another customer’s? I stood there looking like a shop dummy. Maybe a blind person would come talk to me?

On entering a chemist shop, my friend told me that the assistant’s eyes widened when we entered and she scurried away busying herself at one of the shelves, not knowing how to approach me.

My reaction? It depends how often these stupid things happen and the mood I am in on that occasion. My smile usually comes easier than my temper and I laugh it off.

Is it so very difficult to just ask me what I need? To offer your arm if you want me to follow you to another section of your shop? Why not place the object in my hand instead of telling me “here it is” and then hold it up in the air?

One of Pretoria’s earlier mayors use to take a blind person’s arm and politely asked ”Can you take me across the square?” Talking and joking they would then cross Church Square together.

I have even experienced people talking to my guide dog instead of to me. When I was in a good mood, I would talk to them as though I am the dog. If it was one of those rare off days, I would just give the dog an instruction and totally ignore the pedestrian.

Why am I telling you all this? No, not to “show-off” but to help you relax when approaching me be it in business or socially. Oh yes, and being a writer, you are welcome to talk to me about anything you need to be written. I love to write visually, painting a picture to the reader that is easy to follow. Goodness! A blind person writing a picture so that you can follow her! Now is that madness or is it a competitive advantage?

If you can’t make up your mind which, then I’d love you to follow my Journey. I have a few more articles to show you. Click here to contact me and join my journey! I’d like to lead you to a place where trust and soul are more important than “what you see is what you get.”

Enough said for now, keep the tips I gave above in mind when you meet with me, react in the same way you will react to any other stranger, relaxed and natural. You can’t make eye contact? That’s right, I can’t look you in the eye but I will gladly talk to you if you greet me verbally or place a hand on my arm or shoulder while you talk.

Until next time, you are welcome to send your questions and doubts about a blind person and how to approach us.

Hettie Woehler

Kindest regards from Brunothedoglistener.

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A lady called Muriel did send me her comments about some readers in Madrid who want to buy two Bull Mastiffs.

She calls them MAD.
It sort of inspired me to write the following comment.

She is expressing a judgment about another human being.
She is of course free to do it.
I have done this many times.
But I started thinking and feeling about what my judging did to the way I looked at myself and the world.
Let me explain.

It is very interesting to sit back and think about  what we human beings do.
We judge, we complain, we criticize, we moan, we make assumptions, we take many things personal and many times we are not very careful with our words. We can hurt a lot with words. Hurt ourselves and others.
Doing all that certainly produces a lot of negativity in ourselves and in the world.

Dogs do not do that, although many thousands of clients call their dogs MAD. They also tell me their dogs go berserk and they tell me their dogs are stupid.
These are very harsh judgments.
I came to the conclusion that what these people say is just a projection of what they think and feel and that it has nothing to do with the dogs. It is like going to a Spanish restaurant and calling the Spanish waiter MAD and STUPID if he does not speak our language.

Therefore I concentrate on the following, when I work with clients:
As dog owners it is our task to correctly understand the language of the dogs.
Then there will be no misunderstandings between us and the dogs.
When we understand the dogs, they will pay attention to us.
This enables us to correctly communicate with them and educate them. This way we can make it clear through our daily behaviour that we are the pack leaders.
When we have arrived at that stage, whereby it is clear we are behaving like pack leaders, then, and only then can we start training our dogs.

Training is the last bit.
Not the first.
This is why I have so many clients who tell me things like ….and I have been to dog training classes for so many months or years and look what the dog does….. Clear proof of what I just said about the ineffectiveness of DOG training classes.
OWNER training or education has to come first.

Having been teaching for many years in wrongly called DOG training classes I saw that the majority of people did not come to my classes because they wanted to work with their dogs.
They came to my classes because they had a problem with their dogs and I was unable to offer them a solution during those classes.
We each behave individually in a certain way with our dogs. Most of the times that leads to many misunderstandings between ourselves and our dogs.
Usually the dogs are the victims of the situation.
I can only offer a solution if I can observe the behaviour of my client in her/his home. When I see how (s)he behaves with the dog I immediately find the cause of the misunderstandings and then I can start teaching the client how to behave correctly with the dog.
For many people it is difficult to change their behaviour and for some it is even impossible.

These people will go on calling their dogs MAD and each year 8 million dogs will pay the price with their lives because they are being sacrificed.

The few thousands of dogs that are being saved by well-meaning associations are nothing compared to the millions that are being put to sleep by people calling them MAD.
Therefore I think it is of the utmost importance to learn the language of the dogs for whoever who wants to have a dog.
Therefore I am writing all these letters and sending them for free all over the world.
In the hope that by doing that, I can achieve two things. First save many dogs from an early death. And secondly teach their owners how to lead a happy and harmonious life with their pets.

Kindest regards from Brunothedoglistener.

If you do not want to read my letters just click here on here

Stable dogs have stable owners.

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